Emotional manipulators can play dirty but that doesn’t mean you have to.

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You know that saying “Don’t negotiate with terrorists?” Well, the same applies for emotional manipulators. They play a different game by a different set of rules and often use methods like fear-mongering, hyperbole, self-victimization, dishonesty and exploitation of insecurities in order to gain power over another person.

Effectively managing a relationship with an emotional manipulator is, of course, easier said than done. Manipulators are expert at being … well, manipulative. People get stuck in manipulative relationships because it’s hard to draw lines and extricate your own sense of…

Languishing. It’s the fancy word for that blah feeling you’ve been feeling during the pandemic.

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If you’ve been lacking motivation, focus and even joy lately it means you’re ‘languishing’ and you’re not alone. The New York Times has described it as the ‘void between depression and flourishing’ and have called it out as the dominant collective emotion for 2021.

As we ease into a post-pandemic world, we need to tread gently with our emotions. Venturing out into our ‘new normal’ won’t be a one-and-done process but more like an up-and-down path with unknown twists and turns. …

Ways to sustain yourself and create structure in an uncertain world.

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It can be tempting in times of adversity to look for silver linings. The Bubonic Plague led to the Italian Renaissance. Perhaps COVID-19 can lead to our own personal renaissances and reinventions. If we can be flexible and adaptable, we can not only survive but thrive.

This is true. But it’s also true that many of us are hurting right now. We’re tired, confused, and sick of living in crisis with no clarity on when it will end. As a leadership coach, a few of my clients have taken…

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Work has never been easy. Before the pandemic knocked us sideways, we were plenty busy managing stress, fear and frustration in the workplace. But the pandemic has taken these so-called “negative emotions” and doubled their potency.

Our work lives have been upended. Some of us have lost our jobs; others have been forced to go virtual where the boundaries between work and life have all but disappeared. A recent study from the Boston University School of Public Health found that the prevalence of depression symptoms in Americans is more than three times higher during the pandemic.

Anyone who has lived…

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Finding your dream job is a daunting task under ordinary circumstances. Add in a global pandemic that has created record unemployment and upended industries overnight, and it becomes a seemingly impossible task. Stuck at home, social distancing from the world, your dream job likely feels a world away.

Daunting as it might be, it’s still possible to find the job you love or at least be on the path towards a more fulfilling career. As springtime transforms the earth from barren grays and browns into tapestries of green and carpets of wild flowers, we are reminded that life is about…

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More than 33 million Americans have lost their jobs to the Coronavirus pandemic. Thousands more have been furloughed. Many of those who have kept their jobs now work from home, forced in short order to carve out whole new roles and methods for doing work. This is one reason why the pandemic has been so emotionally, mentally, and physically challenging.

As a leadership coach, I hear stories every day of people trying to balance parenthood and work; of juggling toddlers in their arms while fielding important work calls. Some clients feel unmoored in the absence of former routines. Some feel…

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It is mind-boggling how much the coronavirus has changed our lives in such a short period of time. Many of us have gone from regular interaction with others to complete isolation, from exercising in gyms to working out in bedrooms, from kids in school to kids at home, from running meetings in offices to having virtual freak-outs on Zoom. Some of us have gone from healthy to sick and employed to jobless. All of us have gone from routine to uncertainty.

No wonder anxiety is running amok across America and around the world. These are very strange, very scary, very…

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Resilience, over time, can become our own personal super power. Once created, it lives deep within us and supplies us with the necessary grit, determination, and self-compassion to handle setbacks and thrive in the face of adversity. The more we build resilience in times of relative calm, the stronger it will be in our moments of greatest need.

And yet most of us don’t think about how we can make building resilience a part of our daily routine. When it comes to establishing good habits, we pay attention to the healthy food we should eat, the mindfulness practices that ground…

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Six years ago my parents retired to Kangaroo Valley, a luscious wilderness two hours southwest of Sydney. The home they found was their own Shangri-La, nestled in the bushland amongst an array of wildlife so abundant it felt like we were guests in their world, rather than the other way around. Whenever I visited from New York, I would wake to a symphony of birdsong — magpies and parrots and mischievous lyrebirds that would mimic the sounds they heard around them.

Throughout the day the parrots would hang out at my parent’s bird feeders. We would have drinks with them…

Practicing a mindset of Stoic Empathy allows you to endure hardship gracefully while maintaining healthy emotional connections with yourself and others.

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When I was a young girl, my father used to read me the poem If by Rudyard Kipling, just as his father used to read it to him. The poem was framed above my little bed and was illustrated with all my favorite African animals — a giraffe, an elephant, a lion, a zebra.

After receiving heartbreaking news from the doctor a few weeks ago, I found myself Googling Kipling in need of his poem’s wisdom. The beginning of the second stanza stood out to me:

If you can dream — and not make dreams your master;

If you can…

Amelia Kruse

Leadership Coach transforming creative professionals and entrepreneurs into flourishing leaders in work and life. Scholar of emotional intelligence.

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