How To Overcome The Fear Of Making Wrong Decisions

It’s not about right or wrong but about finding the best path forward with what you know.

1. STOP SEEING THE WORLD AS BLACK AND WHITE

So often when we face our biggest decisions, we fall into ‘this or that’ thinking. One option is right, the other is wrong, now if only I could figure out which is which.

2. PINPOINT THE CORE ISSUE

When we get hung up on a decision, usually there’s a deeper cause for our stress. Taking the time to dig into what is at the core of the struggle can help to shed light on which direction to take. Often talking to a trusted person in your life can help to bring you clarity on what’s really going on beneath the surface.

3. KNOW YOUR VALUES

In coaching we often use value exercises to give clients time to understand what they value. Knowing our values is essential for making good decisions, yet we usually don’t think about them on a daily basis. We think, ‘I have to make a decision right now and I don’t know what the answer is!.’ But if we take a moment to think about what’s really important it can prove illuminating.

4. LISTEN TO YOUR HEAD, HEART AND GUT EQUALLY

A brilliant old coach of mine, Marcia Reynolds, used to talk a lot about our three centers and how crucial they are in helping us make tough decisions. The head is our intellectual center, the heart our emotional center and the gut our intuitive center.

5. USE SELF-COMPASSION

Making big decisions is hard. So give yourself a break and exercise a healthy dose of self-compassion. At the end of the day there’s only so much you can control. That’s where a lot of the fear comes from: the fear of the uncontrollables.

Leadership Coach transforming creative professionals and entrepreneurs into flourishing leaders in work and life. Scholar of emotional intelligence.

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